The minute I locked eyes with him, I knew he was the one for me. Something was different…set him apart from the others…no one could even compare. I had met the man who I knew I was supposed to spend my life with.
Honest from the beginning, one of the first things he told me was that he had 2 girls. Ok, no big deal. Nearly 10 months later, still not that big of a deal, rather, a big change.
I’m still learning my way around my new life…though…it didnt exactly come with a map. Opening new doors, going down different hallways…I seem to navigate pretty well.
A step-mom in training I guess. And as a step-mom in training, to all you others out there, below are a few things that you need to know for yourself…to better help you acclimate to your new role:
- You are no ones replacement
- You are not here to fill someone elses shoes
- You are not a glorified baby sitter
- You are not a rent-a-mom
- You are just you
One of my favorite movies is Notting Hill with Julia Roberts and Hugh Grant. Julia’s character approaches Hugh’s and says “I am just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love me.” (she’s some super famous actress in the movie who falls in love with a regular bloke)
I am just me…a woman, who fell in love with a man…who happens to have kids. I dare not replace their mother as I am no ones replacement. I am not a stand in..I am permanent.
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….and you, my beautiful bride to be are simply the most wonderful partner in crime that i could ever ask for. I love you.